When we come into the world, most of us feel safe and

secure and at One with all that is.  But it doesn’t take long

before we begin to bump up against experiences in the

outside world that do not feel in alignment with that One-

ness. Over time, security and connectedness are replaced

with fear and isolation, leaving us feeling alone

and scared, inevitably doubting our own personal

worth.  This misalignment between the inside self and

the outside world is so uncomfortable, so unsettling that we

inevitably adapt in order to conform.

Inside our little, preschool minds we become very busy

unconsciously making up stories about what we need to

do to become a better “me” than the “me” we were born

to be.  We become the writer and director of our very

own personal happily ever after movie, casting ourselves as

the leading actor and all others in supporting roles. 

Believing that we can no longer trust Life as Safe and

Loving, we place our faith and allegiance in the movie. 

Over time, these imagined ideas about the good life

become patterns of the mind, habits of the heart, relegating

the more Authentic Self to nothing but a buried memory. 

In our little, well-intentioned but misguided minds, the

scripted-self becomes “the real me” and the scripted happily

ever after movie becomes “reality”.  We fall asleep to

the Truth and take up residence in a dream world of our

own making.  In the dream world, the script morphs into

the trusted truth and the Truth becomes a dangerous lie.

  

It seems that some people are able to live in the movie

world for a lifetime, holding it together with all their might. 

Others of us -- the lucky ones -- reach a point in our lives

that marks the opportunity for a major shift to occur.  This

is that terrifying moment when the scripted, false-self begins

to crack and fall apart.  Although it is always experienced as

painful and scary and as a very bad thing, a something that

should not be happening – although it is always initially and

understandably interpreted as a disaster, these moments --

I now see, as good -- as very, very good – not to diminish

the very real pain associated with them. 

These disturbing moments are precious because they signal

a deeper level of Truth trying to emerge, no longer willing to

be contained. They signal the arrival of a Truth that extends

far beyond the borders of the scripted page and well beyond

the imaginings of a fear-based, script-writer or leading actor. 

Rather than bringing the dreaded doom and disaster that had

always been assumed, the emerging Authentic Self bears with

it the gifts of Freedom, Openness, Connection and Light. 

It does not bring death, after all; it always brings more Life.

Truth emerges of Itself and in the face of that Truth,

Unconditional Love allows us the freedom to step into it or not

– to claim it for ourselves -- or not. There is no escaping the

script-writing, but there is an escape from being forever bound

by it. My job as a psychotherapist is to hold a Space for that

deeper Truth to come forth, while pointing in the direction of

the freely given choice. When I am willing to trust in the Loving

Wisdom of the Space -- and the client is courageously willing to

lay his script aside long enough to enter into that Space with me,

in some Way that my rational, judging mind cannot comprehend

-- we both are healed.... I love my job...